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Understanding the Power of Non-Verbal Communication

connection & compassion Nov 09, 2022

When we’re communicating with loved ones, colleagues, and strangers alike, it’s important to remember that what we’re communicating isn’t ONLY the words that we’re using.[1]

We are also communicating with our body language, our tone and inflection, our facial expression and more. 

This Maya Angelou really speaks to the heart of the matter:
“People will forget what you said… but never forget how you made them feel.”

So today’s Step-by-Step Guide is going to support us in being more aware of the profound gift we have to give non-verbally.

Consider how we smile, and not only with our mouth, but also our eyes, and even our soft, open, loving hearts?!

Consider how impactful and life-changing touch is. Kind, loving, respectful touch can communicate more than words can.

Consider the softness and sweetness of your words have the power to truly convey more than the words themselves. 

So let’s dive in and unpack how to create closer relationships and happiness in our lives.

STEP-BY-STEP • Communicating with Our Heart

We’re going to play with our non-verbal expression, touch and the tone of our voice today, to become more aware of how we can create closer and happier relationships.

You will need: • A courageous, open, vulnerable heart

  1. Become aware of One Person in your life that you would love to feel closer to. And perhaps that you would also like to have a ‘happier’ relationship with, i.e. you share more happy moments together. Write down the name of that person.
  2. What is the most important message you want this person to know. I know it’s a little morbid, but you can consider what would you want them to know, if you were never able to communicate to them again? Write down your answer. It’s ok to feel and be vulnerable as you write down this very important message
  3. Now consider how you would communicate this message in your face, in your expression? Write down your answer. Do your best to describe it.
  4. How would you communicate this message with touch? Write down your answer. Can you give yourself permission to really FEEL this?! Let it soften your heart and connect you to your loving within.
  5. Finally, what would be the tone of your voice?  Write it down. Describe it as best you can in writing.
  6. Now imagine what would happen to your relationship, if you communicated with these 3 keys: Review answers for Questions 3, 4 and 5. These are your communication keys for this person. Regardless if WHAT you’re communicating to them in words, consider that you can communicate with the energy and loving of your 3 keys.

Pro Tip 🏆 Try it out! The next time you communicate with this person, ignite your 3 keys within you, and then communicate. Let us know how it goes!

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CREDIT • Acknowledgements

Strategy by Zoë Lumiere
Step-by-Step Guide by Zoë Lumiere
Scientific Article [1] by The University of Texas Permian Basin
Quote by Maya Angelou

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