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Picking Ourselves Up

emotional health Oct 05, 2022

As adults, many people aren’t going to admit this to you, but we ALL feel like a FAILURE sometimes.

We all feel small, not enough, broken and useless sometimes.

Yep everyone.

So many of us think that pushing, pressuring and even punishing ourselves when we are on the floor and feeling terrible… is  the way to do more, to do better.

But psychologically we know that doesn’t work.

What works is softness, kindness, loving and compassion.

It feels counter-intuitive, but just try it. See if it works for you.

The next time you feel not-enough, or like a failure… let yourself treat yourself like you would treat your child, or like Fenix… if they came into the room feeling bad about themselves and feeling really down.

Trust me. If you treated YOURSELF with the same sweetness, softness and kindness that you deserve in these moments… you’d get back up faster, with more energy, with more belief, and confidence and courage than ever. We all need Love, Softness and Compassion. And YOU’RE the one to give it to you. Ok let’s dive deep with today’s guide… 

You will need:

  • A challenging situation
  •  An open heart and an open mind
  • Pen and paper
  • About 20 minutes, at least
  1. So the next time you feel really down… I mean really down. Try this.
  2. Imagine that there is a small child inside of you. Imagine that the part of you that feels really down, or not-enough, disappointed, betrayed, like a failure… etc… is a small child inside of you. You can call them “Little Your-Name”. 
  3. Let Little-You speak. Give Little-You the pen and let them write. Let them share how they feel. Let them write uncensored, freely, whatever they want. Let them keep writing until they feel a little complete, a little silent.
  4. Be soft, be kind, build them up with Love. Now get up, maybe grab a drink of water, move around a little. You are now going to use the MOST kind, loving, and soft-hearted place inside of you to respond. From Your Soft Loving Heart, write back to yourself. Tell yourself what you need to hear. Embrace, be kind and love yourself. [Don’t try to fix or change yourself, but be kind, compassionate and supportive].
  5. Now ask Little-You ‘What do you need?’ Let them answer.
  6. Now, as Your Soft Loving Heart… give Little-You what they need. Use your imagination, your intention, your intuition.
  7. Pro Tip 🏆 Can you do this weekly?!?!?! If you do… get ready for profound changes and a whole new life.

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CREDIT • Acknowledgements
Strategy by Zoë Lumiere
Step-by-Step Guide by Zoë Lumiere

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